Avenue Odd

The Husband Store

A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands.
When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor sign on the door reads:
Floor 1: These men have jobs.
The 2nd floor sign reads:
Floor 2: These men have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads:
Floor 3: These men have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and help with Housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6: You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd,4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited.

Picture taken off Flickr.com. Originally uploaded on January 17, 2008 by nickwheeleroz

When young people are increasingly having pre-martial sex. One has to ask, is the age old yardstick of morality, abstinence, finally obsolete?

This blogger thinks so.

The emphasis of abstinence has always been to “save yourself for that special someone”. However, it has to be noted that these ideas originated from a time and age quite distant, and very much different from ours. In the past, people got married at much younger ages than they do now. Most couples tied the knot at age 23 or below, while in our time, at age 23, in most developed countries, people are pursuing a tertiary education, and the average age of marriage is somewhere along the lines of 28.

Abstinence until marriage was practiced widely, though not universally, in the USA through the 1950’s. So it is possible, in the right cultural circumstances, for abstinence to be the norm.
What were the conditions that made it possible?

–A culture that hides and impedes sexuality. Dress codes, chaperones, no public display of sexual language and images.

–Early marriage: it’s possible to wait a year or two; it isn’t possible to get most people to abstain for a decade or more.

–Lack of contraception, so that pregnancy is a likely outcome of non-abstinence. Contraception was illegal in some USA states as late as 1968.

–Abortion illegal and dangerous.

–Shame and denial if pregnancy results. Hurried marriage with an attempt to cover up the pregnancy, or giving birth in a home for unwed mothers and releasing the baby for adoption, were the options.

Abstinence is certainly unrealistic without honesty, discipline and ethical values.

I would not want to go back to the time when abstinence was enforced by shame, ignorance, and withholding of alternatives.

Expecting total abstinence is unrealistic. Faced with a biological drive to have sex and a conflicting cultural drive not to, there are always going to be teenagers on both sides of the fence. Abstinence should be taught as the ideal solution, but should they choose to have sex anyway, teens should be educated on what the risks are and how to mitigate them, not simply fig-leafing the issue and be done with it.

©Picture taken off Flickr.com. Originally Uploaded on August 12, 2007 by pootydog